Be yourself and only yourself
There are a lot of people out there who have seen television shows and movies where one of those dating guru types promises that you will make every woman you’ve ever wanted fall in love with you. There are also websites you’ve probably seen, along with eBooks all over the internet, that promise you the same things, as well. While these “gurus” make quite a bit of money off their promises, they don’t tell you that it’s all a scam. They want you to give them your hard earned money so they can go out and buy things while you sit at home and read their information.
In most cases, these people promise you the world, but very rarely deliver what they promise. If you actually look at what they are trying to sell you, you will find that all you have to do is go out and act like an idiot and you will have sex every night of the week. The truth is that any woman who falls for a guy who acts like this deserves the relationship she ends up with. If you want to have a real relationship, then you have to be yourself.
Being yourself is one of the most difficult and important things you can do to gain the trust that a relationship is based on. If at the beginning of a relationship with her you think you’re a swanky rich guy, and it turns out you drive a Pinto and live in your mother’s basement when she finds out, you can pretty much kiss any chance of being with her again goodbye. Women don’t want to be lied to, even if it’s just a little thing, and if a relationship starts out that way, it will end very quickly.
All these gurus want you to pretend to be confident, when in reality you should be confident. There is no reason for you to pretend to be confident when in reality you are not. The woman you are interested in will know right away if you have the confidence to be with her or not. Imagine you have eaten fast food all your life and suddenly find yourself in a 5 star French restaurant ordering wine in French. The waiter will know you are not from France, and she will know you are not confident.
The best thing you can do is to be honest and sincere with her. Tell her you don’t have the money to go to a fancy restaurant, then turn around and make a romantic picnic out of things you can afford. Do something small but elegant to show her who you are on the inside, and you’ll find that it will impress her much more than trying to pull off the bad boy routine you just paid $29.95 for online. The choice is yours, but making it the right choice is what she deserves from you.