Meet a Joker
One of the qualities that many women look for in a potential romantic partner is the ability to laugh. It’s a good thing when someone can laugh at themselves and make really funny jokes to make sure that the people around them are laughing as well. However, there can be a problem when a man is so comfortable being funny that he feels like he never has a serious moment. He may be sexy and all that you would expect from a man, but if he is just joking around, how can you be sure how he really feels about you?
The Qualities are important
First decide if he really has all the qualities you are looking for in the right man for you. If he is easy to look at, he is definitely a factor at the top of the list. How does he treat you? Does he take you to nice places on your dates? Does he remember important days like your birthday? Is he someone you can count on when you need reassurance? All of these things count, too.
Now let’s look at this joke. Does he make jokes at inappropriate times? Can you have sex without him making jokes all the time? It can actually be very boring, not to mention a real mood killer. What if he starts laughing at other moments that are supposed to be romantic? It will probably get to you pretty quickly. You can’t forget about these kinds of physical jokes either.
They consist of catching you in the shower playing Norman Bates while you are screaming and excited. He may have a tendency to slap you on the buttocks every time you bend over for some reason. It’s not funny when you get to the point where you’re afraid to take a shower or bend over to pick something up.
If, despite these weird habits, you’re still convinced that he’s the one for you, it’s time to sit down with him and have a very open and honest conversation about how all his jokes are affecting your relationship. Tell him that while you appreciate his sense of humor, you also need the times when things are NOT funny, like romance and sex. He needs to understand how you feel when you get involved in a very intense personal moment and he feels the need to make a joke.
It is very possible that you can get him to see your point of view and find a way that is more appropriate for humor. If he always seems to have problems with timing, you may need to ask yourself why he feels the need to be funny all the time. There may be some insecurity that he is trying to hide behind laughter and jokes. He may need to talk a lot to get to the bottom of things and may even benefit from talking to a professional.
All is not lost, as he always enjoys making jokes. A little patience can go a long way.