Tag: Are you in love or obsessed
It should be obvious that there are fundamental differences between infatuation and obsession. Sadly, this is not always the case. Many people find themselves in relationships that they perceive as loving, when in fact it is an unhealthy obsession. Even when confronted with the facts, these people often refuse to admit that they are obsessed rather than in love. In fact, you might be one of those women who is more obsessed than in love. So if you haven’t completely turned the corner yet, here are some signs that you may be more obsessed than in love:
You’re shirking commitments because you have a chance to meet the object of your obsession. This includes missing work, school, or other important appointments because he said he might call you, or there’s an unlikely chance he’ll show up if you stay in a certain place long enough. If you’re canceling dates just because there’s a chance you’ll meet this guy, you should be in serious trouble. If you miss commitments just because of your obsession, you’ll be sorry later in life when you can’t even remember that guy’s name.
You’re missing out on things you like to do just so you’ll be available in case the guy you’re obsessed with has time to call you or wants to see you. What you’re actually doing is putting your life on hold for another person. That may be fine if you’re in a serious relationship or married, but if this person hasn’t done anything to show you that he cares about you, it doesn’t make sense for you to rearrange your life for him. You’ll just miss out on a lot of fun.
Your friendships take a back seat in favor of your obsession. If you’re obsessed with a guy you’re dating or a guy you WANT to date, you’ll tend to ignore your friends in order to be available for this guy, even if he hasn’t called or made plans with you. Eventually, you will drive your friends away from you because they understand that you no longer care about them.
If you notice any of these signs in yourself, please take note of how far you have fallen into the Rabbit Hole. None of these things are even close to normal. You are not supposed to stop living your life just in case a guy decides to call you or suddenly shows up to ask you out to dinner. If it is necessary for you to always be available just in the unlikely event that he calls or comes over, then it is imperative that you get help to overcome your obsession. This is something that can ruin your entire life if you let it. Therefore, you must do everything you can to overcome this obsession and get involved in a healthy relationship with someone who wants to be with you.